Kristen asks:
I many times will ask “Are you wanting to……?”. My boyfriend cannot stand this and says it should be “Do you want to…..”. Can you please tell me if I am wrong? I think this is correct, but if I am wrong, then I would like to know.
"Right" and "wrong" are dangerous words in English usage. It's a language with many dialects, and what is perfectly accepted in one dialect is considered outrageous in another. Many North Americans will ask:
"Have you gotten the tickets?" (That is, have you bought them or picked them up?)
"She still hasn't gotten over her last boyfriend." (That is, she's still upset about him, or in love with him, or both!)
But "gotten" is actually very old English, and it's disappeared from England itself, where people would say
"Have you got the tickets?"
"She still hasn't got over her last boyfriend."
This is a roundabout way of saying that "Are you wanting to..." is perfectly understandable, and may become a widely accepted usage, but it surprises many speakers of "Standard" English.
When you use the expression, you're using the "continuous" tense, describing an action or condition lasting for some unknown time:
"I am thinking about you night and day."
"He was wondering when the package would arrive."
"They were sleeping when the earthquake hit."
In the last few years, I've noticed a sharp increase in my students' use of the continuous tense. They don't say, "I will graduate in May"; they say, "I will be graduating in May." Graduation ceremonies can sometimes take a long time—but not that long! I strongly suggest they stick with "I will graduate," but they seem to prefer the continuous. I am worrying constantly about the fact that they are preferring this new usage, which is taking over very quickly.
So, Kristen, you may be the pioneer of a new trend in English. But I suggest you go back to the more common usage. You will be making your boyfriend much happier, and you will be cheering up your kindly Canadian English teacher as well!
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